What does being a “top” or a “bottom” mean?
Well – I’m glad you asked! If you aren’t part of the LGBTQ community, you might be confused as to what the terms “top” and “bottom” mean in gay culture. These two terms can be broken down more, which can be even more confusing, so here’s an easy guide on what these terms mean:
Top: Being a “top” in the LGBTQ community means you are the one who will be giving during sex. This also means you will often be the one who would be receiving oral sex.
Bottom: Being a “bottom” in the LGBTQ community means you are the one who will be receiving during sex. This also means you will often be the one who would be giving oral sex.
Seems simple enough, right? Here’s where things can get a little more confusing when we bring in the term “versatile”, or “vers”.
Vers Top: Being a “vers top” means you prefer to give rather than receive during sex, but occasionally you will choose to be the one who receives.
Vers Bottom: Being a “vers bottom” means you prefer to receive rather than give during sex, but occasionally you will choose to be the one gives.
Versatile/Vers: This one seems to be the most common role in the LGBTQ community. Being “versatile/vers” means you can do either position and don’t necessarily have a preference.
And that’s your simple guide on what being a “top” and being a “bottom” means. But remember, if you took anything from last week’s post on “10 Things To Never Say To A Gay Person”, make sure you don’t go around asking any gay person you see if they’re a top or a bottom. If you want to know why you shouldn’t say that, go read that post! Please. Do yourself and myself the favour and embarrassment.
Thanks for reading, see you next week!
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