My Top 5 Body Products for Gay Men

As gay men, we’re pretty well known for caring for our hair, body and face – like, a lot. BTW, if you got that hair, body, face reference, I love you. But that’s beside the point here. According to Othervox, which specialises in digital advertising across the world’s most popular LGBTQ channels, gay men spend 32 per cent more on toiletries and grooming products than the average consumer (non-LGBTQ). 

Crazy, right? It might seem crazy to you if you aren’t a gay man, but if you are a gay man, it probably seems reasonable and fair. I don’t know about any of you, but I can confidently say as a gay man I do spend more than I would like to admit on toiletries. 

Like, seriously. You probably don’t want to see my bank statements. 

Nonetheless, over my many, many years of testing various body products (which include a few allergic reactions – ouch!) I’ve acquired a list of products I absolutely adore and love to use on my body to make sure I’m soft and supple. 

Before you continue reading, please remember these are the products that work for me. This list should not be taken as professional advice, and what works for me may not work for you. 

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s start this list! 

1. NIVEA Men Sensitive Skin Shaving Cream

If you’re like me and have sensitive skin and are prone to the WORST razor bumps, this is the bad boy for you. This shaving cream features chamomile to soothe dry skin and contains no drying alcohol. This one does contain fragrance, but since you don’t leave shaving cream on your skin for very long, it shouldn’t be an issue for you because it’s never been one for me. 

2. Bulldog Bamboo Razor

This razor (and brand) have been my favourite for about three years now. The bamboo razor is my favourite product for the Bulldog brand because it provides such a smooth shave and does not tug on my hair or skin. I love it! 

3. Spin for Perfect Skin – Complete Face & Body Cleansing System

I love this brush set because it comes with various attachments! I use the body attachment the most and it’s been so great for keeping my skin smooth and bump-free. Plus, it’s on sale right for $45.99 instead of $109.99! 

4. Frank Body Original Coffee Scrub

This coffee scrub from Frank Body not only smells like the best cup of coffee ever, it makes your skin SO soft. It works on breakouts, scars, cellulite and stretch marks with a blend of coffee, vitamin E, and antioxidant-rich oils. Sounds amazing, right? I love it and I know you will too. 

5. Have you seen my underwear? Booty oil 

Sorry, not sorry for all the booty products. Trust me – this one’s worth it. This booty oil is my absolute fav for after a shower. It’s infused with arabica coffee bean and watermelon oil to make your booty smooth AND smell nice! Anese is one of my favourite body-care brands aside from Frank Body. 

Those are just a few of my favourite body products that keep me smooth, soft, and glowing! If you want to see a part two of even more products, I’d be happy to do so.

Let me know in the comments: do you also splurge on toiletries/grooming products? 

Thanks for reading, see you next week! 

You Need These 5 Halloween Costumes For 2020

Guess what? Halloween is approaching us, and you know what that means – COSTUMES!

As a gay person, I love being way too extra on Halloween. It’s the one day of the week where you get to be extra-gay and have no one judge you for it, because it’s Halloween, duh!

Just like they say in Mean Girls, “In Girl World, Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”

Personally, I’m not very crafty, so I’ve never made my own costume. I’m always that person that spends way too much money on their costumes and they don’t even end up looking that expensive.

But, that’s besides the point, right? At least you show up in SOMETHING. And bonus points if you make it obvious that you’re gay.

So, I’ve compiled a list of the gayest costumes you can wear this Halloween (at home! no parties this year boys!)

But be warned, most of these are “sexy” costumes, so if you don’t like seeing shirtless men, scroll away. But who doesn’t want to see some sexy shirtless men? I mean come on.

Men’s Sexy Priest Costume

Maybe if priests dressed like this, then gay people would actually go to church! I know I would.

Men’s Sexy Priest Costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Gladiator Men’s Costume

If all gladiators dressed like this back then, then I’ll GLADLY time travel back to see them. Who’s with me?

Men’s sexy gladiator costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Prisoner Costume

Suddenly going to jail doesn’t seem so bad if this is the uniform, right? You only have to pay $19.99 + tax and shipping to look like, well, this.

Men’s sexy prisoner costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Adult Teal Unicorn Yumio Costume

This unicorn costume can be used not just for your costume, but it’s perfect for lounging around as well! Since this one is in women’s sizing, make sure you don’t order a size too small. I usually pay attention to the waist sizing and it usually works out pretty well for me!

Adult Teal Unicorn Yumio costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Firefighter Costume for Men

Wouldn’t firefighters be that much more great if they showed up to your house like this? Granted, it’s probably not very safe to rescue someone from a burning house when you’re half naked, but hey, it’s the thought that counts.

Men’s sexy firefighter costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

But of course, not all of us have the money to splurge on costumes. If you’re a crafty gay and you like to use what you have at home, you could do a gay Flinstones costume, or the classic Mermaid Man and Barnacle Boy duo. Or, if you’re feeling really last-minute and are on a budget, throw on a white dress shirt and some socks and recreate the iconic “Risky Business” scene with young and DREAMY Tom Cruise.

Basically, you could literally do anything for Halloween and make it work. This isn’t Drag Race, mmkay? You don’t gotta spend $20 or more on your costume to still be fabulous and extremely gay.

Happy (almost) Halloween! Make sure you’re staying safe, wearing a mask, and practicing social distancing. Don’t go to any parties this year. Seriously.

See you next week!

Coming Out: It Ain’t Easy

Ah, coming out.

Alexa, play “I’m Coming Out” by Diana Ross.

Kidding. This isn’t an Amazon sponsorship (it could be if Amazon so chooses).

The dawn of age for every young gay (or “older gay,” depending on when you came out) where they officially tell their family and friends they’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender.

People come out for various reasons. Either they want to start dating someone of the same gender and be able to tell other people, or they don’t want people to keep making assumptions about their sexuality.

For some people, this can be an easy task. You build up the courage, go out to the living room, sit down with your parents, shed a few tears. Best case scenario is they embrace you and tell you they still love you.

For others (and myself), not so much. Depending on your situation, there can be religious issues, or your parents can simply just have grown up a more traditional way and don’t view homosexuality as something that is “right.” Regardless, if you’re someone like me who hasn’t come out to their parents, and don’t know if you’ll ever be able to, it can be frightening to imagine the outcome if you did.

In terms of my friends, of course they know I’m gay. If you haven’t seen my Instagram, it literally screams gay; so coming out to my friends isn’t an issue. However, I didn’t officially “come out” to my friends until grade nine. Even then, I didn’t fully express my sexuality until after graduating high school. Today, I’m extremely thankful for the support I receive whenever I do something that breaks typical gender stereotypes, like wearing heels (I look AMAZING in heels btw, not to toot my own horn.)

The point of the fact is, coming out isn’t something all of us can do. Sure, it’s a rewarding thing to do, but I don’t view it as the end of the world if I don’t. My mom turned 60-years-old this year and grew up in the mountains of Croatia, so she’s extremely traditional. If I can’t change her mind, I can’t.

So, if someone you know hasn’t come out, or you’re just meeting someone and eventually find out they haven’t, don’t instantly ask them a million questions on why they haven’t. Simply put, it’s none of your business.

Thanks for reading, and see you next week. 🙂

What Does Top Or Bottom Mean?

What does being a “top” or a “bottom” mean?

Well – I’m glad you asked! If you aren’t part of the LGBTQ community, you might be confused as to what the terms “top” and “bottom” mean in gay culture. These two terms can be broken down more, which can be even more confusing, so here’s an easy guide on what these terms mean:

Top: Being a “top” in the LGBTQ community means you are the one who will be giving during sex. This also means you will often be the one who would be receiving oral sex.

Bottom: Being a “bottom” in the LGBTQ community means you are the one who will be receiving during sex. This also means you will often be the one who would be giving oral sex.

Seems simple enough, right? Here’s where things can get a little more confusing when we bring in the term “versatile”, or “vers”.

Vers Top: Being a “vers top” means you prefer to give rather than receive during sex, but occasionally you will choose to be the one who receives.

Vers Bottom: Being a “vers bottom” means you prefer to receive rather than give during sex, but occasionally you will choose to be the one gives.

Versatile/Vers: This one seems to be the most common role in the LGBTQ community. Being “versatile/vers” means you can do either position and don’t necessarily have a preference.

And that’s your simple guide on what being a “top” and being a “bottom” means. But remember, if you took anything from last week’s post on “10 Things To Never Say To A Gay Person”, make sure you don’t go around asking any gay person you see if they’re a top or a bottom. If you want to know why you shouldn’t say that, go read that post! Please. Do yourself and myself the favour and embarrassment.

Thanks for reading, see you next week!

10 Things To Never Say To A Gay Person

About 5% of people in Canada are gay – which equals out to be about 1.8 million people. So, you’d think by now people know how to act appropriately around gay people. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case and oftentimes gay people are put in awkward situations when straight people don’t know their boundaries. Here are 10 things you should never say to a gay person:

1. How did you decide you were gay?

This one ticks a lot of people off because, to put it shortly, being gay isn’t a choice. Trust me, if it was a choice, do you think I would choose to love men? I can barely stand them.

I didn’t wake up one day on a beautiful sunny morning and think to myself, “I think I’m gonna be gay today.” That’s not how it works. Accepting yourself for who you are is a long and difficult process depending on your situation with family, friends, etc.

2. Are you a top or a bottom?

This one doesn’t need much of an explanation because it’s simply rude. Asking a gay person if they’re a top or bottom is the same thing as going up to a straight person and saying, “What’s your favourite sex position?” and if you do ask these questions out of the blue, what are you doing? Unless you’re on a best-friend basis with them, keep this one to yourself.

3. How does (xyz) not know you’re gay? You’re like a walking rainbow!

You might mean this as a joke or maybe even a compliment, but it doesn’t come off that way. Not everyone has a loving and accepting family like most. Just because you grew up a certain way, doesn’t mean every other gay person has the same exact relationship you had with your mom/dad. Depending on the situation it can be extremely difficult for a gay person to come out to their family, and sometimes this situation can mean choosing between living on the street or pretending to be someone else so that they have a roof over their head.

So, before assuming someone’s situation at home, don’t say this to someone.

4. Who’s the man/woman in the relationship?

Thankfully I’ve never been asked this question, but I know many people who have. The answer to this question is really quite simple: neither. The whole point of a gay relationship is that both of them are the man in the relationship. They both have penises, right? Right.

5. OMG, are you single? My other friend is gay and you guys would be perfect together!

We know you mean well by asking this question, but we don’t need you to play matchmaker for us. Just because two men are gay doesn’t mean they’re going to instantly click and get married right away. Just like any other relationship, we need to get to know each other first and see if we’re interested in each other. Sound familiar?

Oftentimes if those two gay men do end up dating and eventually break up, it makes it awkward if you’re friends with both of them.

But if you do want to introduce two gay men to each other, please do it in a more subtle way. I’m sure you’ll find a way to make it happen, but this isn’t a soap opera.

6. Can you be my GBF (gay best friend)?

Gay men are not your accessory. Point blank period. Be their best friend because your personalities go well together and you genuinely enjoy hanging out, not because you want a trophy to bring around saying, “look! I support the gays!”

7. Whoa, you’re gay? Just don’t try to have sex with me, alright?

I think this is something many delusional straight men need to hear. Not only does saying this make you sound extremely rude and obnoxious, we aren’t going to waste our precious time on chasing someone like you who isn’t even mildly interested in men when we have a plethora of gay men to choose from if we really want to have sex with someone.

8. How do you know you’re gay if you’ve never been with a girl before?

How do you know you’re straight if you’ve never been with a girl before? You can’t just assume that all gay men are confused. It’s extremely disrespectful to make us question who we choose to sleep with.

9. You should take me shopping! I bet you have an amazing sense of fashion.

Do I really wanna take you shopping? Probably not. Do I also want to follow you around to all your favourite stores and watch you try things on for hours on end? The answer is also probably not. Being your personal stylist is not a gay man’s ideal weekend outing.

How do you also know I have a sense of fashion simply because I’m gay? What if I end up having no fashion sense at all? Hire an actual stylist if you really want someone to give you clothes.

10. If you were straight, would you date me?

First of all, I don’t want to be straight, so I don’t know why you would even ask me this question. And even if I was in some other dimension, how do you know you would be my type?