My Top 5 Body Products for Gay Men

As gay men, we’re pretty well known for caring for our hair, body and face – like, a lot. BTW, if you got that hair, body, face reference, I love you. But that’s beside the point here. According to Othervox, which specialises in digital advertising across the world’s most popular LGBTQ channels, gay men spend 32 per cent more on toiletries and grooming products than the average consumer (non-LGBTQ). 

Crazy, right? It might seem crazy to you if you aren’t a gay man, but if you are a gay man, it probably seems reasonable and fair. I don’t know about any of you, but I can confidently say as a gay man I do spend more than I would like to admit on toiletries. 

Like, seriously. You probably don’t want to see my bank statements. 

Nonetheless, over my many, many years of testing various body products (which include a few allergic reactions – ouch!) I’ve acquired a list of products I absolutely adore and love to use on my body to make sure I’m soft and supple. 

Before you continue reading, please remember these are the products that work for me. This list should not be taken as professional advice, and what works for me may not work for you. 

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s start this list! 

1. NIVEA Men Sensitive Skin Shaving Cream

If you’re like me and have sensitive skin and are prone to the WORST razor bumps, this is the bad boy for you. This shaving cream features chamomile to soothe dry skin and contains no drying alcohol. This one does contain fragrance, but since you don’t leave shaving cream on your skin for very long, it shouldn’t be an issue for you because it’s never been one for me. 

2. Bulldog Bamboo Razor

This razor (and brand) have been my favourite for about three years now. The bamboo razor is my favourite product for the Bulldog brand because it provides such a smooth shave and does not tug on my hair or skin. I love it! 

3. Spin for Perfect Skin – Complete Face & Body Cleansing System

I love this brush set because it comes with various attachments! I use the body attachment the most and it’s been so great for keeping my skin smooth and bump-free. Plus, it’s on sale right for $45.99 instead of $109.99! 

4. Frank Body Original Coffee Scrub

This coffee scrub from Frank Body not only smells like the best cup of coffee ever, it makes your skin SO soft. It works on breakouts, scars, cellulite and stretch marks with a blend of coffee, vitamin E, and antioxidant-rich oils. Sounds amazing, right? I love it and I know you will too. 

5. Have you seen my underwear? Booty oil 

Sorry, not sorry for all the booty products. Trust me – this one’s worth it. This booty oil is my absolute fav for after a shower. It’s infused with arabica coffee bean and watermelon oil to make your booty smooth AND smell nice! Anese is one of my favourite body-care brands aside from Frank Body. 

Those are just a few of my favourite body products that keep me smooth, soft, and glowing! If you want to see a part two of even more products, I’d be happy to do so.

Let me know in the comments: do you also splurge on toiletries/grooming products? 

Thanks for reading, see you next week! 

You Need These 5 Halloween Costumes For 2020

Guess what? Halloween is approaching us, and you know what that means – COSTUMES!

As a gay person, I love being way too extra on Halloween. It’s the one day of the week where you get to be extra-gay and have no one judge you for it, because it’s Halloween, duh!

Just like they say in Mean Girls, “In Girl World, Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”

Personally, I’m not very crafty, so I’ve never made my own costume. I’m always that person that spends way too much money on their costumes and they don’t even end up looking that expensive.

But, that’s besides the point, right? At least you show up in SOMETHING. And bonus points if you make it obvious that you’re gay.

So, I’ve compiled a list of the gayest costumes you can wear this Halloween (at home! no parties this year boys!)

But be warned, most of these are “sexy” costumes, so if you don’t like seeing shirtless men, scroll away. But who doesn’t want to see some sexy shirtless men? I mean come on.

Men’s Sexy Priest Costume

Maybe if priests dressed like this, then gay people would actually go to church! I know I would.

Men’s Sexy Priest Costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Gladiator Men’s Costume

If all gladiators dressed like this back then, then I’ll GLADLY time travel back to see them. Who’s with me?

Men’s sexy gladiator costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Prisoner Costume

Suddenly going to jail doesn’t seem so bad if this is the uniform, right? You only have to pay $19.99 + tax and shipping to look like, well, this.

Men’s sexy prisoner costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Adult Teal Unicorn Yumio Costume

This unicorn costume can be used not just for your costume, but it’s perfect for lounging around as well! Since this one is in women’s sizing, make sure you don’t order a size too small. I usually pay attention to the waist sizing and it usually works out pretty well for me!

Adult Teal Unicorn Yumio costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

Sexy Firefighter Costume for Men

Wouldn’t firefighters be that much more great if they showed up to your house like this? Granted, it’s probably not very safe to rescue someone from a burning house when you’re half naked, but hey, it’s the thought that counts.

Men’s sexy firefighter costume / Halloweencostumes.ca

But of course, not all of us have the money to splurge on costumes. If you’re a crafty gay and you like to use what you have at home, you could do a gay Flinstones costume, or the classic Mermaid Man and Barnacle Boy duo. Or, if you’re feeling really last-minute and are on a budget, throw on a white dress shirt and some socks and recreate the iconic “Risky Business” scene with young and DREAMY Tom Cruise.

Basically, you could literally do anything for Halloween and make it work. This isn’t Drag Race, mmkay? You don’t gotta spend $20 or more on your costume to still be fabulous and extremely gay.

Happy (almost) Halloween! Make sure you’re staying safe, wearing a mask, and practicing social distancing. Don’t go to any parties this year. Seriously.

See you next week!

5 Benefits of Using Sex Toys

Sex toys are defined as an object used to provide or increase sexual pleasure, such as a dildo or a vibrator.

For some people, maybe that’s a cucumber. Or a carrot. But, please don’t put produce inside of you. Just don’t.

However, due to the stigma around sex toys, they can have a bed rep sometimes. Some people might think it’s weird to use a sex toy on your own, or some people in a relationship might not be ready to explore that side of things just yet. Or, some people just might not know enough about them to consider buying them.

So, for your convenience, I’ve compiled a list of the top five reasons you should be including a sex toy in your sex life, whether it be for yourself, or to spice up your relationship.

1. Better Sexual Performance

If you’re using a sex toy in bed with your partner, they can greatly increase the pleasure you experience. If you’re gay, vibrating anal beads or vibrating dildos can work really well. While I’m sure your sex life is already probably great, you and your partner will find the vibration sensations to be surprisingly really awesome.

2. Faster Orgasms

If you’re the type of person who wants sex to be over as quick as possible, you might be wanting you or your partner to have faster orgasms. Or, you might not be happy with the amount of time it takes for your partner to orgasm. Both of these can be solved by using sex toys – yes, really!

According to certified sexuality counselor and clinical sexologist (I didn’t even know this was a real job) Dr. Dawn Michael, sex toys like a penis ring or a prostate vibrator can easily make you orgasm much faster, which will not only help you feel better about yourself if you’re concerned about how long it takes for you to orgasm, your partner will appreciate it too.

3. Sexual and body awareness (and confidence!)

Let’s be honest, using a sex toy will make you more sexually aware, but it will make you more aware of your body, what you like and don’t like, and increase your confidence. I can say this from experience, because using sex toys has made me WAY more confident, and I’m very proud to admit that.

Using sex toys will also make you more aware of your erogenous zones. These are parts of your body that have heightened sensitivity, and stimulating them results in pleasure. In men, these erogenous zones are mainly the ears, neck, scrotum, nipples, and perineum (the ridge between the scrotum and the anus,) but some people can have different erogenous zones on their body, and that’s why it’s up to you to find them.

Obviously I’m not saying to put a vibrating dildo inside of your ear because it’s an erogenous zone, but what I am saying is investing in a vibrating sex toy and figuring out what parts of your body have the highest and lowest sensitivity will benefit you in the long run.

4. May help erectile dysfunction

If you have erectile dysfunction, don’t let it get you down. It can be heavy on your confidence and make you embarrassed when you go to have sex, but sex toys have even been proven to help with this as well.

And, no, erectile dysfunction doesn’t just apply to men who are 40 and up. Erectile dysfunction can be a side effect of many blood pressure medications and antidepressants, so don’t think you’re “too young” to have it even if you do.

Some of the things that can help you are ED rings, placed around the base of the penis to slow the flow of blood back from your penis to help maintain an erection. But if this doesn’t work for you, you could also look into specially-designed male vibrators that can help gain an erection and stimulate your nerve endings. But since I’m not a doctor, I can’t recommend anything because I’m not an expert in male sexual health.

If you want recommendations for erectile dysfunction, do NOT be afraid to bring up the idea of vibrators to your doctor. Trust me, they’ve seen and heard it all.

5. Improves relationships

If you feel like your relationship is missing that extra something but you can’t quite put your finger on it, the answer is likely a sex toy. For example, for gay men, your partner could use a vibrating penis ring while they’re inside of you, and they could use an anal toy inside of them at the same time, so everyone is stimulated and it’s one big happy stimulation party.

However, some people also tend to think if you have a sex toy, why are you in a relationship then? The thing is, if you’re already enjoying the sex without sex toys, using sex toys only enhances the pleasure. They aren’t going to take away from your partner. Sex toys mix things up in your relationship and keep things interesting – whether you’re into handcuffs, being tied up, or vibrators. There are SO many options for the both of you.

Besides, I really don’t think a sex toy can do much besides provide a few minutes of temporary pleasure. You can’t really compare an inanimate object to a real human being. Let your sex toys provide the extra pleasure you didn’t know you needed.

Now you’re ready to go out into the world and buy some sex toys! Some of my favourite sex toy stores in Canada are Adam & Eve, Lovehoney, and PinkCherry. They all have a wide array of options and price points for any budget, so I don’t want to hear any excuses about how you can’t afford them. You can!

Again, as I mentioned previously, don’t be afraid to just look at dildos and vibrators. Look at as much stuff as you can and READ REVIEWS. There might even be something better than dildos and vibrators you might be interested in, you never know until you try!

Thanks for reading, and see you next week. 🙂

Coming Out: It Ain’t Easy

Ah, coming out.

Alexa, play “I’m Coming Out” by Diana Ross.

Kidding. This isn’t an Amazon sponsorship (it could be if Amazon so chooses).

The dawn of age for every young gay (or “older gay,” depending on when you came out) where they officially tell their family and friends they’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender.

People come out for various reasons. Either they want to start dating someone of the same gender and be able to tell other people, or they don’t want people to keep making assumptions about their sexuality.

For some people, this can be an easy task. You build up the courage, go out to the living room, sit down with your parents, shed a few tears. Best case scenario is they embrace you and tell you they still love you.

For others (and myself), not so much. Depending on your situation, there can be religious issues, or your parents can simply just have grown up a more traditional way and don’t view homosexuality as something that is “right.” Regardless, if you’re someone like me who hasn’t come out to their parents, and don’t know if you’ll ever be able to, it can be frightening to imagine the outcome if you did.

In terms of my friends, of course they know I’m gay. If you haven’t seen my Instagram, it literally screams gay; so coming out to my friends isn’t an issue. However, I didn’t officially “come out” to my friends until grade nine. Even then, I didn’t fully express my sexuality until after graduating high school. Today, I’m extremely thankful for the support I receive whenever I do something that breaks typical gender stereotypes, like wearing heels (I look AMAZING in heels btw, not to toot my own horn.)

The point of the fact is, coming out isn’t something all of us can do. Sure, it’s a rewarding thing to do, but I don’t view it as the end of the world if I don’t. My mom turned 60-years-old this year and grew up in the mountains of Croatia, so she’s extremely traditional. If I can’t change her mind, I can’t.

So, if someone you know hasn’t come out, or you’re just meeting someone and eventually find out they haven’t, don’t instantly ask them a million questions on why they haven’t. Simply put, it’s none of your business.

Thanks for reading, and see you next week. 🙂